respite super gising painting collection

“Super Gising”

Ang mga ama ay madalas tawaging “pinuno ng pamilya,” kinokonsulta ng mga anak para sa karunungan, tinutularan bilang modelo, at inaasahan upang sustentuhan at protektahan ang pamilya; lahat ng ito ay nagdudulot ng paghanga sa kanila, at ito rin ang mga katangiang hinahanap natin sa isang “bayani.”

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Sumulpot ang Pop-art, hinamon ang paniniwala ng lipunan sa kung ano ang nararapat tawaging sining; “pagtanggi sa parehong pangingibabaw ng ‘mataas na sining’ ng nakaraan at sa pagpapanggap ng ibang napapanahong avant-garde na sining.” Para narin itong, isang paraan ng pag-alsa kontra sa nakasanayang pananaw.

May nagsabi na ang pagka-ama “ay pagmamahal, pangangalaga, at paghahanapbuhay lamang;” isang responsibilidad na mamuno ng pamilya; at ang mga ama ay mayroong obligasyong moral na tulungan ang mga anak na lumaking “mabuting tao,” at matutong “gumawa ng mga malayang desisyon na (sana ay) may kahalagahan.”

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Marahil ang “Super Gising” ay isang panawagan upang mamulat, maging mapagmasid, dahil baka hindi pala sila “bayani,” ginagawa lamang nila ng mabuti ang kanilang trabaho, at ito ang kung ano ang nararapat–na humiling tayo ng kakayahang maging magaling, mahusay at matagumpay mula sa “pinuno ng pamilya,” sapagka’t “sila lamang na nangangamba at nayayanig sa ‘pagiging-ama’ ang karapat-dapat na umangkin ng walang katapusang responsibilidad”–sa pamumuno.

Ang lipunan ay may posibilidad na bigyan ng labis na pagpuri ang pagka-ama… Subalit hindi natin sinasabing tayo’y maging walang hiya at humiling ng “perpektong” ama; sa halip ay maging hamon ito sa kanila (at sa atin, bilang mga ama sa hinaharap) na mamuno sa pamilya, pangaralan ang mga anak “tungo sa buhay ng kabutihan,” para sa mga ama na “gawin ang pinapangaral,” at gumamit ng “disiplina ngunit may kasamang lambing at pagmamahal.” Pagkatapos lamang nito, na sila ay maaaring tumanggap ng ating paghanga.

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Ang “Super Gising” ay pininta ni @pancho_karambola para sa nakaraang eksibit ng respite na “Kape Kape,” isa itong pribadong koleksyon ng respite–ngayo’y ipinagbibili. Ang imaheng ito ay tila isang boss, pinuno, o maaari ding isang “bayani”…na handang humarap sa kahit anong pagsubok; at sa tingin namin ay naaangkop bilang tampok sa araw ng mga ama, sapagka’t marami itong kahulugan, na ang mga nanay ay nagsisilbing “tatay” din, ang mga namumuno ay tinatawag ding “pinuno ng pamilya;” at ito rin ay nagbibigay ng katanungan: “dapat lang ba na basta basta silang tawaging ‘bayani,’ o sila ba ay dapat hingan ng kakayahang maging magaling, mahusay at matagumpay?”

* https://www.britannica.com/art/Pop-art
* https://www.iep.utm.edu/parentri/
* https://www.adnu.edu.ph/urc/download/p035p050.pdf
* https://www.newstatesman.com/politics/2015/02/paternity-leave-why-we-should-stop-romanticising-fatherhood
* https://aeon.co/essays/what-the-childless-fathers-of-existentialism-teach-real-dads
* https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/why-we-need-heroes/201906/why-our-fathers-are-heroes

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On People

Our space has always been about the people more than anything; because coffee, cookies and cakes are made to be consumed, and then people get to have a “respite.” Our feed will never be “curated” on Instagram, because the people who come in and pass by are not (or we just don’t know how to make it “look good,” help?), plus we almost never post our customers because privacy–again “respite.”

From the grumpy guy outside who keeps hating our customers–in turn driving them away (what’s wrong with you!), to the nice laundry guy neighbor, the lady who supplies our soap (respite’s one rule, always wash your hands until there’s no more skin), the tall caretaker who’s all smiles and kind to us, the two–“yung mukhang adik” (they’re actually nice people), and the ladies who keeps blocking our stairway making sure nobody comes in (we just let them be), all is well.

And for those who do come in. “Ate I’m not going to buy anything, I don’t have money” (okay, high school students you are excused, have a seat, here’s water, free tea–not always like this though). The regular tambays, they have been promoted as “patrons,” they get discounts for no reason (yes, sometimes they buy things). Our kind neighbors upstairs, who shared their space with us, and buys everything we have. Our loyal customers from our first location (thank you for literally just passing by to say “hello”). Meridian kids, who would talk about how they understand the world works (we miss you). Parents, who bugs their grown up child everyday (come on, “leave those kids alone”). Random unpaid “starving artist,” who got curious with our shop (we have delicious water, sometimes free coffee–we really need sponsors). “Freelancers” who would rant about the “corporate” world, but have never worked for one (we will rant with you). Seminarians who would quote the best scholars, just to show you they “read good stuff” (we like reading too). Evangelicals, Born Agains, and the like, who would try to convert you because that’s what they live for (we listen). Beach bums who got lost in the city (some of the nicest people we met). “Lost souls” (aren’t we all?). And finally, paying customers, who make up a portion of our crowd (we hope you are many).

This is who we are, respite–a community.

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Our Team

One was into coffee brewing; another studied pastry art, trained two to help out. Found a space for rent, hired a staff, then some interns and part-timers. Met hundreds of friends, customers–turned friends, passersby…not enough.

Sylvette wanted to serve good coffee, source out beans, bring out its flavors through proper brewing. Then, she was exploring spirituality; now, its coffee.

Jessica found pleasure on satisfied palates, if they’re not, it drives her to make–used to be nice dresses, but these days–good recipes to bake.

Brewed, baked, and sold online. At bazaars, met people, artists, friends…good friends, became customers; then more baked goods, thus more hands.

Lita values tradition, while Mary admires innovation, their dynamics in cooking is unparalleled; now, they’re also skilled bakers.

A space, along Mother Ignacia, number 72, looked promising. Gathered enough resources and courage…leased it, renovated.

Diana just passed her board exams (interior designer); her first project, with great patience–working with her two sisters–she pulled through, and did well.

Marlon was working as a construction helper; hired him as maintenance guy, assistant, etc.; best of all he’s resourceful.

Soft opening, everybody came; soon, road construction…obstruction, almost nobody came for a long time. Learning and still learning, not ready to leave–held on too long.

Mj and Pat came first, they were determined. Clinton, Kerwin and Lennard didn’t need the job, but always reliable. Dre is highly efficient. Julius was attentive. Christian, Kurt and Ryan were enthusiastic.

Fleeting, now, we’re heading to a better space…finally a respite.

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Soft Opening

October 28, 2015. Served some coffee and baked goods. The best plant box along Mother Ignacia, and a nice wall art…then road workers.

As our operation gets developed, interns helped and adapted well. Part-timers came at night–it was a bit scary outside, limited lights, dark street–it felt safer with them.

Friends and customers gave us gifts (food, artworks, etc.), some words of encouragement, and lots of coffee beans–plus regular supply of Vietnam coffee.

On our official opening (December 3) and “blessing day,” we invited close friends, shared our journey into becoming “respite.” Each day we met new customers, they wanted more stuff; we had baking workshops for kids and adults, expanded our menu.

Red Velvet Cupcakes, Dark Choco Chunk Cookies, and Panna Cottas are our regular’s choice. Coffee from Mt. Apo pleased our customers; and our “secret recipe” Hot Chocolate was a favorite.

Our flowering plants made our days brighter. Rolly Boga, Goro, and Gekorr kept us company; some paintings and zines entertained us. After joining two Local Loca bazaars and one 10a Alabama fair…

They started digging, we were inaccessible and worried.